[Lens] move reference handling to server

[nickofthyme]

Summary

Move Lens reference handling to server side.

Checklist

• Unit or functional tests were updated or added to match the most common scenarios
• The PR description includes the appropriate Release Notes section, and the correct release_note:* label is applied per the guidelines
• Review the backport guidelines and apply applicable backport:* labels.

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