feat: Support configuring JVM arguments

[sbernauer]

Description

Part of stackabletech/issues#584
Part of stackabletech/operator-rs#942

# Tasks
- [x] Make sure to update RBAC roles to patch events!
- [x] Changelog
- [x] `cargo +nightly update -Z unstable-options --breaking --dry-run`
- [x] `make regenerate-charts`
- [x] `make regenerate-nix`

Definition of Done Checklist

• Not all of these items are applicable to all PRs, the author should update this template to only leave the boxes in that are relevant
• Please make sure all these things are done and tick the boxes

# Author
- [x] Changes are OpenShift compatible
- [x] CRD changes approved
- [x] CRD documentation for all fields, following the [style guide](https://docs.stackable.tech/home/nightly/contributor/docs/style-guide).
- [x] Helm chart can be installed and deployed operator works
- [x] Integration tests passed (for non trivial changes)
- [x] Changes need to be "offline" compatible

# Reviewer
- [x] Code contains useful comments
- [ ] Code contains useful logging statements
- [x] (Integration-)Test cases added
- [ ] Documentation added or updated. Follows the [style guide](https://docs.stackable.tech/home/nightly/contributor/docs/style-guide).
- [x] Changelog updated
- [x] Cargo.toml only contains references to git tags (not specific commits or branches)

# Acceptance
- [ ] Feature Tracker has been updated
- [x] Proper release label has been added
- [ ] [Roadmap](https://github.com/orgs/stackabletech/projects/25/views/1) has been updated

[maltesander]

LGTM!

[maltesander]

LGTM!

[sbernauer]

Started https://testing.stackable.tech/view/02%20Operator%20Tests%20(custom)/job/trino-operator-it-custom/27/

[sbernauer]

Tests passed 🥳

[maltesander]

LGTM!