feat: add missing opts for cache config

[Readeem]

Looking at the current release candidate (v0.19.0-rc.7) found out the issue with cache config:
config struct is now private, we as library users cannot directly set it's fields other than using With opts.
Before, if a config opt was missing, I could use something like:

bot.WithCacheConfigOpts(
	func(c *cache.Config) {
		c.SelfUserCache = NewCustomSelfUserCache()
	},
)

But now some of With opts are missing, making it impossible to workaround.
So here I implemented missing opts. Also I checked every other place where config opts pattern is used, and probably cache package is the only place where I found issues.

[topi314]

The reason for this change was to reduce the api surface and allow better flexibility internal.
Thanks for adding the missing opts, seems like I missed them!