wasi-runtimes: various fixes

[carlocab]

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• avoid references LLVM Cellar paths in symlinks, as these will break on
  version updates to LLVM
• make lld a test-only dependency, since it's not required at
  build-time

[carlocab]

Cherry-picked onto #195828.