Upgrade Test infrastructure to Cassandra 4.0

Compatibility verified. Upgrading `cassandra-all` to `4.0.0` requires a few changes and pretty often the server doesn't come up properly. Requires follow-up in a separate ticket.

_Originally posted by @mp911de in https://github.com/spring-projects/spring-data-cassandra/issues/1123#issuecomment-887398026_